100 things 2016 completed and uncompleted items

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At the end of December 2015 I bought 2016 Create your shining year in life 2016 workbook by Leonie Dawson. I was very excited to reflect and plan in the lead up to Christmas, as I felt it detached me from all the Christmas craziness I used to feel. I also got started on my vision boards early and gave the layout of them a new look.

I connected with others that also bought Leonie Dawson’s book and even hosted a few online masterminds where learning about bullet journaling and the miracle morning changed my whole year for the better! As I used those tools, I gradually stopped using the diary and now have come to realise one point focus is a lot more beneficial and something I need to instil with my goals and daily tasks than the list of 100 things I made in the workbook.

The Leonie Dawson workbooks are a brilliant buy, they served me at a time where I needed something fun, fresh and practical to get me back on track. There are other planners out there that look interesting and Your best year 2017 reviewed here is my favourite so far and there’s The passion planner too, which comes in pretty colours!

The section I continued to follow throughout the year until recently as a one point focus is important, was the 100 things to do in 2016. A big list of silly, joyful, big, small, creative goals. I only wrote 72 and have completed 26.

Here is my list for inspiration to others and links to posts and videos:

Completed throughout year:

  1. Pass my driving test
  2. Buy a car, insurance
  3. Go to Kundalini Yoga festival
  4. Finish Drawing 1 module
  5. Colour madalas
  6. Go to life drawing classes
  7. Go to yoga classes often
  8. Connect with people more
  9. Shine my light
  10. Chris Zydel online course painting with fire
  11. Run a monthly mastermind group
  12. Save money aside for date nights/days out
  13. Find and try out recipes I love to make
  14. Watch Erin Brockovich
  15. Eat more fresh foods
  16. Make my own gf df desserts
  17. Say I love you to myself often
  18. Say yes more
  19. Get a spiritual name
  20. Be mountain bothies and climb Snowdon
  21. Go to Outsider Art exhibiton/Gallery
  22. Visit Norfolk beaches and see seals
  23. Buy, read, use Raw Vision magazines
  24. Develop writing style
  25. Short yoga teacher training
  26. Brighton ghost walkTo completed in the last 3 months of 2016
  27. Watch Ghandi film
  28. Draw mandalas
  29. Go to a Gong bath
  30. Go to Abstract Expressionism exhibition
  31. Have all websites up to date and live
  32. Go on a day out together
  33. Buy my own turbanOther things I didn’t complete (some not of interest anymore)
  34. Go sight seeing in Prague
  35. Learn to oil paint
  36. Make a yoga workbook
  37. Free painting workshop
  38. Make a spiritual workbook
  39. Make 12 free paintings
  40. Make and eat Kimchi
  41. Buy my own set of tarrot cards and learn to use them
  42. Put money in a kickstarter
  43. Try out protein powder in smoothies
  44. Spa day
  45. Complete, publish, share poetry book
  46. Do more youtube videos
  47. Learn numerology
  48. Kundalini clubbing night
  49. See puffins
  50. Northern lights Norway
  51. Go to a conference/event someone I am fan of
  52. Do a creative everyday for a month
  53. Go to a gong bath
  54. Drive a segway
  55. Ice climbing
  56. Giant zip wire
  57. Climb a huge tree
  58. Walk with an alpaca
  59. 4×4 off road adventure
  60. Powerboat southampton
  61. My own pair of irregular shoes
  62. Visit Kew gardens
  63. Dive deep into expressive art, teach it
  64. Attend a Unity church
  65. Pay off car
  66. Watch a play on stage
  67. Short break Berlin
  68. Have a holiday somewhere hot
  69. Go to a book club

Exploring Counselling as a study option

Before I go into how I felt during and after the introduction to counselling course I attended, I’ll first give a bit of back story to my creative and professional decisions and development.

A year ago I started doing an Art Degree Drawing Skills and as the course progressed I found myself enjoying it but realistically not going to make it over the high bar that is drawing perfection. Especially without sacrificing the joy, love and fun I have actually making art.

So one day with clarity and relief I announced – I’m going to do my drawing course as personal development only. That left a huge gap of ‘What next?’ as my plan was to do a degree, do a masters and be a successful Art Therapist. Instead of going into an old pattern of study something then study something else I decided to wait and think about all my options.

I have finished my final piece of work and have made a goal to paint in my own style over the Summer and see what happens.

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With that in play I thought there is no harm in seeing what is out there by doing short courses and exploring my options actively.

On my list of 100 things in 2016 I added – Explore Counselling as a study option! Counselling originally appealed to me as it’s about helping people in their lives, it’s a varied job that can be within an organisation or freelanced and diverse. It’s where Wayne Dyer started out at and people make their own unique practises such as Counselling and Creativity and Yogi Amadeep Singh.

I think others would agree with me when I say I left the course wondering if I really could/wanted to even be a counsellor! Here’s what I learnt and discovered:

  • There’s a big difference between sympathy and empathy, watch this Brene Brown video and you’ll see what I mean, don’t be hard on yourself though, we’ve all been there.
  • Counselling is not about ‘helping’ it’s about being along side the other person, listening and supporting subtly so that the other person can come up with the answers on their own. An example of this to think of a time you felt listened to and another time you didn’t, compare how you felt about the two situations. If anything it’ll make you entirely grateful to have someone listen to you at a deep level – it did me.
  • The term ‘peeling an onion’ was used to describe the process, I like the creativity of A little piece of me on this phrase.
  • In counselling every experience is different, so unlike when you advise a friend about something you would never use your own experience or opinion in a session – to me it’s an easy concept to read about but a lot harder in practice!
  • There is paraphrasing, restating and reflecting the thoughts and feelings of the other person to gain further clarification and listening.
  • Counselling explores people’s feelings, not the experience. It involves open questions to encourage conversation and openess.
  • Language functions like a lift, expressing more will gain further incite, focus, questions and answers.
  • One concern I had was that there was a lot of talking and no problem solved, no next action to take (at first I thought it may be all the personal development I listen to, to do lists and goal setting I do, but others shared the same curiosity). This however is normal as counselling in this way is very gradual, it’s more about listening and letting the other person come up with own answers that they may cover at another session. A type of counselling called CBT is homework and solution focused.If your thinking about having a counselling session either for yourself or someone you care about try it out. A counsellor is there to listen and be alongside you in your journey.

Or if your thinking about training to become a counsellor – go for it, counselling can be learnt at any age with any background! An introduction course like I did is the best place to start, following that are Level 2 certificate, Level 3 (1 year) and Level 4 (diploma 2 years), overall it’s 4/5 years part time and you can find more information on BACP.

 

On finally learning to drive

As a newly passed driver, I take a look back at a very early limitation I set upon myself, it came up lately from another person were the words ‘I can’t imagine you….’ This can be depleting and destructive to a sensitive persons spirit and it’s as if subconsciously I heard ‘I guess I’ll never drive then’.

I first experienced the term before I got into personal development back when I was teenager, I remember thinking about driving and seeing, hearing of other 17 year olds driving and think ‘I can’t imagine myself driving’.

Little did I know back then that this was indeed the uncertain voice of fear creeping in. I wish I could go back to that 17 year old and say what I say now- ‘Just because you can’t imagine it, doesn’t mean it can’t happen.’

Other reasons I didn’t drive were that I felt less of a need to as I walked everywhere and enjoyed it. I didn’t know how a car worked (of course I didn’t have to know everything then, that comes in time being taught), I was just totally unconfident in some areas of my life, I see that now.

Here are some hints for learning to drive:

  • Start from where you are – make enquiries, gather learning material, start small
  • Ask around – through talking about driving, I was told of great teacher!
  • Visualise it – it just so happens the very car I put on my 2015 vision board I now drive and own!
  • Meditate – after I started yoga driving became so much more stress free, having a calm mind makes the hard so much easier.
  • Affirm it – cycling to work I used to repeat to myself ‘I AM driving a car’ as I was peddling up a hill.
  • Be positive – half of what determines how you drive is your outlook and attitude so be positive, we learn from experience.
  • Practice, practice, practise – even when you don’t feel like doing it
  • Follow other steps – Finish your goal with any other programs you feel you need to sign up for and set mini goals. I did pass plus then set and met the intention of driving to yoga class, a further away art gallery, the beach and so on.

Some driving goals I set for myself and completed: